Confidence. It is one of those elusive emotions that some people exude, we all want, some people fake, others bask in it and some folks will spend their lifetimes looking for. Is there a recipe for confidence? I actually think that there is… (more…)
How steadfast are you on your opinions and beliefs? Do you hold strong or are you able to be flexible?
As NLPers, we know that our opinions and beliefs come from our model of the world – our own distortions, deletions and generalisations about the world around us. Our filters play a big part too – our history, family, memories, economic status, religion, etc.  Once something happens a few times, our unconscious mind starts to look for and find “self fulfilling prophecies†– that is, we start to look for what we know.
In fact, lets go one step further: Your opinions are the result of years of paying attention to information which confirmed what you believed while ignoring information which challenged your preconceived notions. (more…)
I wonder, is being happy something that has to take a lot of effort? Does it require time, energy, will power and decisiveness? Or, can it just be a choice?
I think the answer to that is a combination of all of these. Yes, it can be a choice and yes, it might take a bit of effort – effort that is, if your Present State is not already “happyâ€. (more…)
Have you seen the movie We Bought a Zoo? I only saw it a few weeks ago, and I loved it. There was a line in the movie that the dad said to his son; and it struck home for me in many ways. He said… you only need “20 seconds of insane courage†to get anything done. Too true! Its so easy to hesitate at something – saying something, asking something, doing something – but if you had just 20 seconds of insane courage to just start – to just say the first few words – to just jump… what would be different in your world? (more…)
You may have heard me speak about this, or maybe you’ve read one of my articles about it… Life work balance.
More so a few years ago, but there was a time fairly recently that this was a buzz term – “you need to create life work balanceâ€â€¦ even now, some of my clients come to me and say “I just need more life work balanceâ€. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out which way their scale is leaning – people don’t often say to me something like “you know Heidi, I think I’m living too much, I really need to work moreâ€.
Now, here is what I think of “life work balance†– I think it’s a croc… we don’t need life work balance, we need balance – just balance. (more…)
You may know that in April we brought Dr. Stephen Gilligan to Sydney from the USA for Trance Camp. Steve teaches a form of Generative Trancework that is based on Milton Erickson’s hypnotic work. Steve was a student for many years of Erickson’s and is probably the best Ericksonian Hypnotherapist around.
Anyway – one of the main tools that is taught and mastered by many in Trance Camp is Centering. That is, finding and connecting with your Center.
We each have our own way to center, our own way of grounding ourselves and coming “home†to ourselves. When you are in your center – nothing can push you, move you, manipulate or hurt you. This perhaps is another way of saying “congruentâ€. (more…)