Creating Rapport with Yourself

Have you ever had a moment where you seem to be out of whack with your self or elements of life?

For example, does it ever seem like you don’t have enough time, energy, money, motivation?

Have you ever lost your oomph or mojo?

What if… these things were really just a sign that you are out of rapport with yourself?

NLP has a Presupposition (assumption) that says “resistance is a sign of a lack of rapport”, and aren’t these examples simply examples of resistance? (more…)

Should I Jump?

Ready, set…..

Stopping, starting, changing, going, not going, staying, not staying…. choices, choice, choices.

Nearly daily we have a choice to make – should I stay or should I go?

This might be about the gym, a relationship, a job, a bar, your house, your clothes – just about anything. So how do we make these decisions?

Some decisions seem like no brainers and they are pretty easy to make. Others sometimes feel like rocket science issues on steroids. (more…)

Chasing Happiness

How often are you truly happy? How often do you think you ‘should’ be happy?

Two interseting questions as I sit here and write… two questions that really open up the possibility for more questions – what is happiness? happy compared to what? Truly happy? Just to name a few of the questions that spring to my mind. 

You may have heard about this client before – she came to see me many years ago. At that time she was in her mid 70’s and when I asked her what I can help her with she told me I want to be unreasonably happy. Intreagued, I asked her what that meant to her – her answer was simple: to be happy for no reason.  I liked that. (more…)

I Don’t Know…

Do you know the feeling that you get when you come across something that you know nothing about? For some people this is a frustrating type of feeling (we’ll call you the controlling people) and for others its a freeing feeling.

For me, its the latter. When I don’t know something, it almost feels like an adreneline rush. A moment where I have the opportunity to learn something new if I choose. A change to expand my awareness, skills, understanding and life.  (more…)

Choice and Change

There are two constants in life. OK, there are more than two… but I’m narrowing it down today. These two constants face us every minute of every day.

Choice and Change.

With the ticking of the clock we have both of them throughout the day; and then we have other aspects of life from our own thoughts to other people to the weather. If you look for certainty in life, it is certain that there will always be choice and change.

But some people tend to forget about the choice part. (more…)

Choice is better than no choice

Have you ever felt stuck because you felt you didn’t have a choice about something? Or perhaps stuck because the choice you have are both unsatisfactory?

Every day we are faced with choices. So many choices in fact that it would be virtually impossible to list them all. What to wear, what to eat, what to do…. they are the minor decisions.

In my NLP Coaching practice I often work with people who are ‘stuck’ – and it normally comes down to one of two things: 1) only one option or 2) only two unsatisfactory options. In NLP we have a presupposition that says Choice is better than no choice. Also, NLP suggests that:

If we have only one option we feel cornered, with two options we have a dilemma, but with three or more options we have a choice. (more…)