Do you know that little voice inside your head that can sometimes be sweet and charming and at other times it can be rude, sarcastic, cutting and critical? Who is in charge of that voice? And when do you take it seriously or not?
One of my favourite sayings is :the most important words you will ever utter are those you say to yourself, about yourself, when you are by yourself.
I love this. For me – it makes me listen a little bit more to the internal voice. Not as a place to find truth, but as a voice to help me navigate. I know that my unconscious mind is a servant to follow orders. My orders. And when I can listen to the voice, I can identify if there is help or hurt in the words and tonality.
For me, I know if there is any hurt in the tone it is a safety mechanism for me. Not to doubt myself or back off, just to proceed with caution, have a Plan B and calculate my risks. One of the NLP Presuppositions is: the more you know the better you can do. Well, if I know what the tone and tempo of my internal thoughts mean, then I can use that information accordingly.
I know that I want the very best for me and I wouldn’t purposefully do anything to harm or hurt myself. But, I know that some people take the words and the tonality of their internal dialogue very personally and very seriously, therefore act based on what they hear, not what they know.
Generally speaking, if you get a negative feeling from the internal voice you hear – instead of listening to the words, listen to the intention. For me, and many of my clients, the intention is to get my attention so I can make sure the path I’m on is the right one.
Gratitude, self love and self honor are the feelings that come most for me after I’ve listened to the intention of my critical voice.  What are your voices saying to you?