As the year comes to an end, its always a good time to take stock of where you’ve been, what you’ve learned and where you are going. In the next few weeks I will help you do just that. However, I want to take a moment to get you to gauge your overall, big picture attitude toward the year. It was interesting to me, in an interview I saw with Madonna the other day she said something interesting, she said “I’m never satisfied”. She went on to say, that her life is great, she is (still) doing something that she loves, she doesn’t go without – yet she is still not satisfied. Are you?
I mean, if Madonna can’t be satisfied, who can be?
One of the functions of the unconscious mind, from an NLP perspective is: the unconscious mind is always seeking more and more. So, in a way, we are programmed to not rest on our laurels and to not be satisfied. To a degree. However, to me, there is a difference between not being satisfied (seeking more) and being disappointed. When I heard Madonna say she wasn’t satisfied, there was almost a tonality that says ‘but there is more’. Without actually being able to ask her questions, I don’t know if she is just seeking more or if she is disappointed. My guess is the former.
Yet, so many people I meet are dissapointed. And, that disappointment is laced sometimes with regret, anger, fear or sorrow. Disapointment that they didn’t do a better job, didn’t do more, didn’t give more of themselves, their time, their energy.
Sometimes these feelings are warranted – like when someone actually didn’t do their best or when someone gave up when the going got tough. It happens.
More often than not however, a person has done a good job and did everything they could do with what they had available and it is their beliefs and values that hold them in a space of not being satisfied. Not good enough.
People, things, events, ideas – nothing is perfect. Nothing is going to be perfect. Perfection type thinking, negative thinking and defeatism are all great ingredients to disappointment.
I’m curious, as you look back over the past year – what have your accomplished? Big or small? What did you learn? How did you grow? What did you achieve? How will you use this year as a platform for the next?
If any of the ‘but’ stuff comes up – look at it from the perspective of someone who didn’t do it, who just looked in and saw the end result. Having the skill to look from a different perceptual position can help you to identify more than you possibly can see otherwise.
I’m hoping that this year, satisfaction comes in waves of abundance and glory!