by Heidi Heron | Feb 22, 2011 | Featured, Life, NLP
When was the last time you had a bad behaviour? Let’s face it, we have them daily. Even a negative thought could be thought of as a negative behaviour. I’ll be honest here – I would love to be an undercover traffic cop sometimes. I’d love to give tickets out to people driving recklessly. Excessive speeding, tailgating, not using turning indicators… I’d be very good at it. And, it would give me a lot of ‘feel good’. My behaviour – judging other people’s behaviour in their cars as right or wrong, is this good behaviour? Not really. In fact, I’d put it down as a ‘bad’ behaviour. It’s not up to me to decide who should get tickets, how people should drive, what driving behaviours people should have.
Key word here: should. (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Feb 8, 2011 | Featured, Life, NLP
How much time do you spend with yourself, or on yourself or about yourself? Too much? Not enough? Just the right amount? No – this isn’t Goldie Locks and the Three Bears, but we can learn something from that golden girl. She choose what was best for her.
In my coaching practice I often meet people who put very little priority on themselves and their own happiness. Most of their waking time is spent thinking about other people, their needs, wants and desires. They are not coming to see me to get help with that, directly. In fact, most of the time they don’t even realise that they are putting themselves last on the list. What they walk into my office for is usually something like “I’m stuck in my lifeâ€, or “I’m unhappy†or “I want to find my purposeâ€â€¦ something along those lines. Yet, what comes out loud and clear is a need for external validation and an internal emptiness. (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Jan 29, 2011 | Featured, Life, NLP
Happy 2011! I hope your year has gotten off to an amazing start. As this year begins, I see the term “New Year, New You†all over the place. I have even used this phrase myself in past years. The new year is after all, a great time to turn over a new leaf and re-create oneself.
Or is it?
Really, our job to become best version of ourselves, does this mean that we need to have a “new you†or a “true you� Is who you were last year not who you are this year? My current thought is that instead of creating a new you we should aim for the true you.
So who is the true you? (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Dec 17, 2010 | Featured, Life, NLP
“In spirit there is no competition, only completion.â€
How often do you stop and take a look at your life? I mean really look at life? It seems that so much of the time people are already thinking about the next thing they will do, or where they will go, or what is next on the ‘list’. To me, it is even interesting to listen to the language people use. Here is a normal everyday type of conversation:
- Person 1: How are you today?
- Person 2: I’m OK.
OK? Just OK? You are in the arms of the universe with so much beauty and powerfulness in your life and you’re just OK? I’m mean really? (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Dec 7, 2010 | Family & Parenting, Featured, Life, NLP
A few posts ago I shared some Heidvice for parents of young children. I’ve been asked by many parents for some suggestions for older kids and teenagers. Or, for the child that loves writing so much that she was asking her mum what she had to do to get the writing task (thanks for sharing that one Julie!)
According to Morris Massey, when kids are 8-13 they are in the modelling phase of growth and 14-21 the socialisation phase. In both of these development stages kids are learning responsibility and personal boundaries. The following parenting technique is great for kids who have the ability to know right from wrong and think about their consequences – with their parents help of course. We know from brain research that the pre-frontal cortex isn’t fully developed until the age of 19-21 and this part of the brain is responsible for judgement and decisions. Off the cuff a teenager or tween is making a decision based on right here and right now. However, with guidance (and after all, guidance is what a parent gives) they can and will be more conscious in their thinking abilities.
This task is very useful in teaching a few things:
- Responsibility
- Accountability
- Trust – your trust of your child and probably more importantly, their trust in themselves. (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Nov 23, 2010 | Featured, Life, NLP
Each one of us is an individual. Or at least that’s what we think. Have you ever done something because that is what everyone else was doing? Have you ever persuaded someone else to do the same as you, just because? Have you ever not done something that you wanted to do because it wasn’t ‘cool’ or the done thing? Have you ever done something just because you wanted to even though others didn’t want you to or agree?
Most likely the answer to each of the above questions was Yes. We’re only human. And in each of those moments, and any other moments you have – who gave you permission to do something? (more…)
