I’m sure you have heard someone say this before “just be†– and phrases like “after all, we are human beings, not human doingsâ€. You may have even heard that from me!
The million dollar question however, is “Howâ€.
If “beingness†was so easy, wouldn’t everyone do it? Yes – and no. (more…)
How many perfectionists do we have out there reading this? I’ll bet there are a whole bunch! I say this, because the world is full of them!
Perfectionism is one of those traits or behaviors that fully encroach and block the ability to be truly confident. In the 12 years I’ve been working with individuals, I am yet to meet a perfectionist who does the perfectionist thing because “it makes me happyâ€. Nope. Rather, “it needs to be perfect so other people will know I’m goodâ€. Its for “themâ€; and too often, there really isn’t a “themâ€. (more…)
Sensory acuity – that is the NLP term for “notice what is happening around youâ€; well, in simple terms at least. From an NLP perspective, when you are sensory acute, you are aware of macro and micro movements and changes that can clue you in on many things.
Unfortunately there are so many people (NLPers included) that lack sensory acuity. These are the people who keep following you well after you have finished a conversation, who keep talking although you look nearly dead due to boredom or who bring the complete opposite emotion into a situation and don’t notice. (more…)
Confidence. It is one of those elusive emotions that some people exude, we all want, some people fake, others bask in it and some folks will spend their lifetimes looking for. Is there a recipe for confidence? I actually think that there is… (more…)
How steadfast are you on your opinions and beliefs? Do you hold strong or are you able to be flexible?
As NLPers, we know that our opinions and beliefs come from our model of the world – our own distortions, deletions and generalisations about the world around us. Our filters play a big part too – our history, family, memories, economic status, religion, etc.  Once something happens a few times, our unconscious mind starts to look for and find “self fulfilling prophecies†– that is, we start to look for what we know.
In fact, lets go one step further: Your opinions are the result of years of paying attention to information which confirmed what you believed while ignoring information which challenged your preconceived notions. (more…)
I wonder, is being happy something that has to take a lot of effort? Does it require time, energy, will power and decisiveness? Or, can it just be a choice?
I think the answer to that is a combination of all of these. Yes, it can be a choice and yes, it might take a bit of effort – effort that is, if your Present State is not already “happyâ€. (more…)