by Heidi Heron | Jul 19, 2012 | Featured, Life, NLP
How many perfectionists do we have out there reading this? I’ll bet there are a whole bunch! I say this, because the world is full of them!
Perfectionism is one of those traits or behaviors that fully encroach and block the ability to be truly confident. In the 12 years I’ve been working with individuals, I am yet to meet a perfectionist who does the perfectionist thing because “it makes me happyâ€. Nope. Rather, “it needs to be perfect so other people will know I’m goodâ€. Its for “themâ€; and too often, there really isn’t a “themâ€. (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Jul 12, 2012 | Featured, Life, NLP
Sensory acuity – that is the NLP term for “notice what is happening around youâ€; well, in simple terms at least. From an NLP perspective, when you are sensory acute, you are aware of macro and micro movements and changes that can clue you in on many things.
Unfortunately there are so many people (NLPers included) that lack sensory acuity. These are the people who keep following you well after you have finished a conversation, who keep talking although you look nearly dead due to boredom or who bring the complete opposite emotion into a situation and don’t notice. (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Jul 3, 2012 | Featured, Life, NLP
Confidence. It is one of those elusive emotions that some people exude, we all want, some people fake, others bask in it and some folks will spend their lifetimes looking for. Is there a recipe for confidence? I actually think that there is… (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Jun 20, 2012 | Featured, Life, NLP
How steadfast are you on your opinions and beliefs? Do you hold strong or are you able to be flexible?
As NLPers, we know that our opinions and beliefs come from our model of the world – our own distortions, deletions and generalisations about the world around us. Our filters play a big part too – our history, family, memories, economic status, religion, etc.  Once something happens a few times, our unconscious mind starts to look for and find “self fulfilling prophecies†– that is, we start to look for what we know.
In fact, lets go one step further: Your opinions are the result of years of paying attention to information which confirmed what you believed while ignoring information which challenged your preconceived notions. (more…)
by Heidi Heron | Jun 4, 2012 | Featured, Life, NLP
I wonder, is being happy something that has to take a lot of effort? Does it require time, energy, will power and decisiveness? Or, can it just be a choice?
I think the answer to that is a combination of all of these. Yes, it can be a choice and yes, it might take a bit of effort – effort that is, if your Present State is not already “happyâ€. (more…)
by Heidi Heron | May 16, 2012 | Featured, Life, NLP
Have you seen the movie We Bought a Zoo? I only saw it a few weeks ago, and I loved it. There was a line in the movie that the dad said to his son; and it struck home for me in many ways. He said… you only need “20 seconds of insane courage†to get anything done. Too true! Its so easy to hesitate at something – saying something, asking something, doing something – but if you had just 20 seconds of insane courage to just start – to just say the first few words – to just jump… what would be different in your world? (more…)
