As Ghandi said – be the change you want to see in the world. For change to happen however, we must change. I have met so many people through my profession as a coach and trainer who want something different in their lives, but they aren’t willing at a deeper level to make the changes necessary for it to happen.
Change is a two-fold process in the world of NLP:
There is something quite extraordinary about knowing what you want! And, when I’m working with my clients, it is imperative that I know that they know what they want. After all, I’m helping them to get there.
It’s interesting to me that when I help my supervisees or students with some of their client work how sketchy they can be on what their client wants. I was assisting someone the other day; she was asking me the standard “what NLP processes should I use with this person” question. Her client was very depressed, withdrawn from life and stuck. My first question to her was: “What is her desired state?”. In my opinion, there is no use doing anything with anyone unless I know where they are going. Her answer “she wants to be a professional dancer”. OK – I don’t know about you, but if my client is depressed their desired state is not to be a dancer. That might be the long-term goal, but not the desired state for right here and right now. (more…)
When was the last time that you truly had a great laugh? One that shook your body, came from your belly and brought tears to your eyes? They say laughter is the best medicine – and I think whoever “they” are, are right.
Off and on for the past couple of weeks I’ve been spending time with my 16 year old cousin Megan. What a bright shining light she is. And we have fun! Sure, it’s the same kind of fun as I normally have – yet its different. We laugh. And, we laugh without filters – at just about everything. Singing songs wrong, slurping spaghetti, other people, learning to drive a manual car, tripping over things, getting tongue tied. It’s great. (more…)
Sometimes life is absolutely fantastic – flying on cloud nine, everything going exactly how it is in your mind… and then at other times, its like you woke up on planet Zazar (nope, I don’t know where that is either…) On those days, how do you get back on track? How do you reclaim the magic of life?Â
It can be easier than thought.
Let’s look at a few simple steps to reclaim the magic: (more…)
How good is your imagination? Can you visualise easily? Can you feel a feeling without something external happening in your world? Can you smell a smell without an actual odour present? Â
I believe our imagination is one of the best tools that we have as people. I’m not sure animals have an imagination – I’d like to think that my kitten imagines playing with a ball of yarn, yet I don’t think it does. However, we imagine all the time. In fact, your imagination is the best way to tap into your unconscious mind!
Most of us reading this will already have a good understanding of what NLP is. But, what if there was a different opinion to ours? What if there were another way of looking at NLP that could compliment our own understanding, or even spin our definition to be even better? I don’t know about you, but I’m always curious about how others describe NLP. I’m curious about how people use NLP. I suppose its this curiosity that Richard Bandler was talking about when he said that “NLP is an attitude and methodology that leaves behind a trail of techniques”.
To me that ‘attitude’ is one of curiosity.Â