Oh to be a kid again! Clean your room – I don’t wanna. Eat your veggies – I don’t wanna. Do your homework – I don’t wanna! The list goes on.

But we can’t get away with that as adults. Well. I know plenty of adults who try!

Quite a few of my clients in fact still have the ‘I don’t wanna’ syndrome and seem to think that the choices that come with being an adult include not doing what you don’t want to do. And, this is true to some degree. If I don’t want to clean my home, I can hire someone. If I don’t want to eat my veggies – the extra layers of warmth on my tummy catch up to me.

So yes, I still have choice.

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One thing in life that seems to be constant is change. And with change comes choices. And choices lead to decisions.

How do you make decisions? Would you say you are a good decision maker? That it depends on the situation? Or do you suck at making decisions? (technical term, obviously!)

One more question…. How did you learn how to make decisions?

The answer to this one – first, from modelling others and second, by doing it yourself and amending (or not) from there.

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In my last post I looked at The Second of A’s to Self-Coaching – Acceptance.

Once you have become aware of what is happening in your world of emotions, behaviours and thoughts and you have accepted what is happening; from this place, you can then notice alternatives and choices that may not have been in your awareness a few seconds before. Now, you can take action the third A. This might be moving in a different direction, changing your self talk or simply making a choice from Cause about the next move to make.

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In my last post I looked at The First of A’s to Self-Coaching – Awareness.

Once you are aware of what you are doing, the emotions you have and the impact of all of that in your world you have the ability to see new choices.

But, we don’t just want to make a new choice right away. Delay the choice making for a few seconds. A knee jerk recaction to your awareness may just cause another problem – reaction is just another action to something that you have just done. Instead, once you become aware I invite you to accept what is happening and where you are, and your responsibility for it. Acceptance is the second A and a step that bring you closer to planned action, or pro-active choices.

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