There is something quite extraordinary about knowing what you want! And, when I’m working with my clients, it is imperative that I know that they know what they want. After all, I’m helping them to get there.
It’s interesting to me that when I help my supervisees or students with some of their client work how sketchy they can be on what their client wants. I was assisting someone the other day; she was asking me the standard “what NLP processes should I use with this person” question. Her client was very depressed, withdrawn from life and stuck. My first question to her was: “What is her desired state?”. In my opinion, there is no use doing anything with anyone unless I know where they are going. Her answer “she wants to be a professional dancer”. OK – I don’t know about you, but if my client is depressed their desired state is not to be a dancer. That might be the long-term goal, but not the desired state for right here and right now. (more…)